Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
Coercive control is often silent, always manipulative, and for me, it was the most damaging part of the abuse cycle. And the hardest to recover from. As a survivor of domestic violence and addiction I know how coercive control can make you feel powerless. I lost my voice and in doing so, my complete sense of self.
A excerpt from my memoir From The Other Side.
Daily instances of his gaslighting techniques that always left me questioning my own sanity instead of his honesty. As he created scenarios of triangulation, through innuendo and fantasies, it got harder and harder to find the energy to distinguish fact from fiction. If I found the gumption to challenge him, he always came up with elaborate excuses. The exorbitant nature of his stories did my head in. In the end, it was easier to just let him define reality. It became easier to believe him when he told me that I was too controlling, too jealous, and too sensitive.
Artwork is my own. 'Powerless'